Misery LOVES company!

by Kamini Rambridge, 25 March 2024 17:46

I’m sure you heard the phrase or you probably internally giggled as you read it. It’s true. Misery LOVES company. Don’t get me wrong a little venting here and there didn’t kill anyone, it actually keeps us sane and out of prison. With that said, surrounding yourself with miserable people can actually drain you even further. Let me put this into perspective, let’s say you had a crappy day at work or school and you word vomit your frustrations to a friend, colleague or partner. Ideally, it’s supposed to make you feel better almost lighter, like you lost 5kgs by just exhaling your baggage out into the ether. However, in some scenarios, we tend to vent our frustrations to individuals that are permanently miserable. Yes, there are people that are permanently miserable, walking “sighs” and breathing “urghs” that co-exist among us. There are Miserabelene’s and Sighhhesa’s everywhere. Be careful of those names, they are around you but go by other names, names we refer to as ID book names.

Getting back to the point of this, miserable people make other people miserable. Let me say that again, miserable people make other people miserable. This is nothing profound and I swear I have not visited the Himalayas recently. This is an undeniable fact that you even believe. How many times have you actually felt worse after a conversation that you had with someone? Dude, write that name down and make sure you underline it because that’s not the interaction you should be having. These Miserabelenes were literally “born with it” but you my dear friend, you weren’t. You were destined for great things but don’t expect a trophy everyday (we are adults now and we prefer liquor).

The people you interact with have a way of invading your energy field. Ahhh, I’m almost losing you because I sound like a YouTuber with a perfect life talking about how you should be grateful and all that jazz, but hear me out. Each person you meet and engage with, intertwines with your energy and your wavelength. If they are negative Siggghhhesha’s then they will drain the valve life right out of your poor little heart. Soon after that you experience palpitations and wonder “why do I feel this heavy?” or “why do I feel uneasy?”Well it’s simple, the interaction you have with miserable people leaves you feeling depleted, anxious and irritable amongst other very dreadful and unpleasant feelings. I’m sure you can imagine a person or possibly many people that suck the fun out of EVERYTHING. They are never motivated, always complaining and perform mediocre at best in their day to day activities. They are always tired and the moment you need to vent, they have some life changing catastrophe that occurred in their garage. Guys, life is not that bad (at least not all the time). Don’t be an Eeyore in a world full of Poohs.

The key to this is always protect your vibe. Always protect your inner circle and when I say inner circle I don’t mean friends I mean your own mindset. If you feel like a person is draining your energy, it’s time for some reflection. Do you really want that type of vaarbs? Of course not! Who does? People that don’t make the cut in your inner circle of peace and contentment need to be given the axe immediately and I don’t mean ice them out, I’m saying slowly pull away by choosing where and who to give your energy to.

I know there are some truly revolting and catastrophic days that we encounter and resulting in us asking “God, can you test someone else now?” I get it, we NEED to vent because it’s a release of our inner tension and stress that fills us up like a pressure cooker. Venting is supposed to be just that… venting and feeling better and lighter afterwards usually ending with an “anyway” (usually to indicate closure to the conversation) and a general conversation afterward.

If there’s two things I want you to remember it’s this:

1.        A bad day doesn’t equate to a bad life.

2.        Who cares, we gonna die anyway.

Life happens. Shit happens. We move forward.

Let me know in the comments if you agree or if you know any Miserabelene’s or Sighhhhesha’s.