Ahhh someone came to mind already!
So you know these guys at work that walk in and just have this “Sandton strut” walk? Those ones that feel like they are walking in Paris Fashion week and Anna Wintour actually smiles at them as they walk? The ones that criticize, instead of correct. The ones that never take responsibility for their own bullshittery because they are in fact hand crafted works of art that descended onto earth via Golden lights- you know one right?
Maybe you know more than one.
You could know the family member that just can’t shut up about their success because they want everyone to know how well they are doing in life and how Vivian Reddy and Sorisha Naidoo invited them on Facebook (those are fake accounts bruh). That person that sits at every function blabbering about themselves and how they would never eat out of a paper plate or makes sure they enter last so that God forbid anyone misses out on seeing the ostentatious vehicle that they secretly don’t even own.
You could have a superior at work that does absolutely nothing but will find every possible problem with how you do things and you being the naïve Deer, buy into their narrative of how you actually perform work wise. You get these women that are so annoyingly, painfully, disgustingly and almost diseased in their thinking methodology that they use their power of their title to get their way. Urgh, I picture one now- she always gave me the ick. She behaved like she was the best thing since Albany superior- someone should tell her she needed a mint cause yoh….
Narcissistic people will never introspect or change. They will never see their faults because to them “the limit does not exist”… lol. These people actually thrive on praises from people that are equally irrelevant but because they feel so important by the peanut gallery- they are unable to decipher important conversations with people of substance as compared to their cheerleaders. They can't have conversations with intellectual people because they are intimidated by them.
I have so many encounters with this type of homo sapien species that I actually lost count. I find their perception of themselves quite funny and I see right through their bullshit. The important thing to remember about Narcissistic people is that they cannot and will not change. You have to change your approach to survive the interaction by simply giving them very minimal attention or just completely zone out when they start talking.
When I last dealt with this species, I imagined his face like the snapchat filter with the huge lips and slowly began day dreaming about supper. Thank God I was able to snap out of that day dream because I was starting to salivate over my chicken curry to come. I also changed his voice in my head to that of talking Tom and even imagined him slapping himself. It was the highlight of my week.
In this scenario, I went in knowing I was dealing with a narcissist and they never have anything of actual value to add to your life by even uttering a word. I think I paid more attention to the wall behind him and imagined how it would look if I painted a cat with no fur in a bathing suit. The cat would look fire as f….
I knew this person was talking crap so I did what everyone should do when dealing with people like this- pay them absolutely no attention and just continue with your day.
There is a huge difference when someone corrects you if you made an error- the difference is that they take the time to show you how something is supposed to be done. Think of your superior (dang all my superiors probably be like thinking its about them-relax), anyway, say you have a discussion and it leaves you feeling like you are absolutely useless. For one maybe you are useless and should consider becoming am opium dealer OR you know you are not useless and you had given it your all.
These rodents make you feel inferior and all they thrive on is blowing out the light within you so that they can take the credit for your hard work and when things go to shit, blame you for it instead of taking accountability where it’s due. They have this way of making you feel so minute and so small, that you the tigress that you are- start to believe it. They criticize but never assist (cause they don’t know wtf to do), they call people out- to avoid their own guilt and they break others down because when someone is broken, they become easier to manipulate…
They tend to over state their “wins” and often look stupid when the truth is revealed and that they were bull shitting you this whole time. Ahh the truth is always revealed. They love being surrounded by important people and favor people that profess their undying and unwavering adoration (hold I need to barf) and their best tactic is manipulation.
Manipulation and narcissistic people are like Gin and Tonic- just works like a bomb. They have you believing that the sky is green and that you should join their Forex business which just crashed minutes ago. They play victim and blame people that are not in the room to defend themselves because they would lose in that ring my friend.
Your approach to these people is very simple:
1. Irrespective of who they are in your life, do not let their words hold any importance because it’s horse crap. They LOVE being important.
2. If you are in a relationship with one, run. Run for the midlands hills my friend.
3. If you work with someone with these symptoms, make sure you remember to never take their words personally. Remember who you are and just what you are capable of. Let your work make the noise.
4. Suggest they see a specialist before things get violent. After a few vodka shots I learn Karate.
From what you have read, you can picture one already and it may sound easier said than done to handle these types of people, however if you want to live a healthy, happy and peaceful life- you gotta start somewhere.
It's time to expose people that are fake and serve them some humble pie.
Remember we all poop the same so imagine him or her pooping right now
Until next time…
Throughly enjoyable read